it's true. it's not that the advice is worthless but it takes so long for it to sink in.
i've been hit with 2x4s but so many vets here when i started and i never got it.
it took me 10 months to finally stop being so angry. i had every right to be angry but at that point, what is being angry going to do? d was going to happen .. angry or not.
counselling helped and i was truly blessed to have supportive family, friends, and just people in general.
fellas, as long as your wife is wearing her ring .. all is not lost. don't give up hope. i know for me, as soon as i took my ring off, i was done. i wasn't going to wait around for someone who clearly did not want to be with me. he was free to go.
i know the guys might be 'oblivious' to your M problems. but now is your chance to really take a look at what signs you missed and work on those. don't be obvious about it. identify, acknowledge, and keep it in the back of your head. then work on you.
act as if you are going to be a single father. adjust to that life now. learn the skills you need to learn and when the time comes, you won't be flailing.
because a man who has it together .. is very attractive. maybe this is something your W wanted to see in you? what's your story?
