Thanks Harrier. I believe I understand everything you posted. Sometimes this forum is just a place for us to yell, "stop this, lets get to work" to our wifes.

As men, we are a "fix it now" breed, and it makes it even worse when we feel so ashamed for the pain we have caused, that we want it fixed even more. I understand it is going to take time, there might not be enough time. But I still need to vent,let frustration out or my patience will be lost. That is what I am doing on this site sometimes. I know it makes me sound weak on these posts, but I would rather release these feelings on here, so I can be given advice or refreshened by someone like you. Thank you.


H-40 W-38
Together-20
Married-12
boy-7 girl-3
bomb-9/17/10
No papers
live together
No affair