I agree that the OW is just a symptom, if not just a band-aid to the problems they need to deal with on their own. I do feel any reconciliation for me would have to be with out OW involved. But, that being said, I can see where being there for H as he breaks free from that R and addiction would be beneficial to the reconciling relationship.

Yes, I said that the OW R is an addiction, because after reading so much about MLC, I believe many of these are just that, an addiction to take the focus off of their own pain.

I do not think you are too proud. I believe you have a lot of respect for yourself and how you should be treated. That is an awesome thing to have, it helps you to keep your moral compass.

Lorie
W47 H48 D16
M20
H gone 11/9/10 lives w/OW

When you forgive,you heal. When you let go,you grow. When you cry to God, you surrender. When you love unconditionally, you show others Christ's love.