You've got to get the basics of DBing down before you can expect change. No R talk is one of the first basic principles. No pressure on her comes under that. If I read nothing but this last post from you, I would think you had been applying pressure b/c you said she "finally" answered you.
She's right, the two of you argue about the same old stuff.....so how do you break that cycle?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
