Lighthouse lit till WAW comes out of fog.

[ScaredinCanada]

I am starting a new thread because I think you are supposed to after 100 hits. I am not sure how to post a link to my old thread.

Well, I have survived for about 4 months now since the bomb. In the last couple of weeks I think I am starting to accept what has to be done.

I am going to give her time, leave her alone, and try to decach the best I can.

It is really hard because I really think she is done. I see no sign of any change or willingness to try at all. But, if I accept this, I am done anyway. So I might as well be in it for the long haul and hope how I perceive things is wrong.

I see a lot of posts about people backsliding. I don't think I have had to write one of these yet, so maybe I am doing something right. I also feel like I am not doing anything, so how do I backslide? Same day over and over, not any worse, not any better. Getting very lonely.

Well I will just keep plugging along.

I hear you Habit. It's been exactly 2 months since the B for me. I backslide constantly. I'll do well for a few days or a week and then I have setbacks - for exactly the reason you state.

I'm frustrated that I'm not seeing any progress from her side. I'm started to believe I never will, but it makes me think that detaching and GAL are even more important now, because if she doesn't come around I don't want to be a complete mess if and when it ends.

To be honest when this begun I would have never imagined that nothing would have changed in 2 months. I keep telling myself it could take a year or longer, but dealing with the actual time is so much harder than telling yourself something.

I'm really interested to see what if anything my W does for anniversary. I'm going to ask her mid week if she stills wants to go out for dinner or not. If she says no, I'm going to plan a nice dinner with her and kids as a way to at least recognize it as it relates to our family.

I've picked out a nice card, went with something that basically summed up my feelings - but something I obviously can't say to her right now. I'm going to sign, without an ILY or anything additional.

Thanks again for posting, just reading your comments sitch helps me a great deal to cope with mine.