What about the rings?

[ScaredinCanada]

hmm .. this is odd. all replies are from males.

i don't mean to be thread-jack .. but i gotta know.

you're all here because your spouses are walking away. and yet, you have said that your spouses still wear their rings.

to me, that's a great sign. they are honoring the marriage until the D is final. you have hope so db your butts off!

me? as soon as we moved into separate apartments (we sold our house), my ring came off. there was no question. i was barely into the separation when i took it off. i lost weight too but that wasn't the reason for me taking it off.

i was done. and i think i took my ring off before he did. it wasn't until he noticed that i was no longer wearing mine that he removed his. and to this day, i'm not D yet .. but i get a lot of attention with no ring on my finger.

don't get me wrong. i wanted to save my m. but then i woke up from my own fog. did i still want to be married to a narcissistic prick who mentally and verbally abused me for years? i hope he rots in hell.

how would you feel if your Ws took hers off pre-D? curious as to what men think about this.

Right now (not sure if it's a trend) there appears to be a lot of us men dealing with a WAW. Not sure if this is because guys are more likely to be "oblivious" to the fact that their M is falling apart? If I hadn't lost my wedding band I'd still be wearing it.

Like others have said, I take the fact that my W still wears her rings as a sign that she isn't completely done. On the other hand it could simple be out of habit, or maybe she likes wearing them and it no longer means anything sentimental to her, I'm not sure. I know the few times I have noticed them off, and immediately my heart dies and I panic that it's really over. I figure if she took the rings off it would be a sign that it was really over.

I'm back to DB'ing, GAL and detach. I can't keep getting sucked in to my emotional ties. Can't wait for our anniversary next week!! lol