thanks for the advice and kind words Lis. I truley appreciate them. I look forward to my time on here, I am still a little nervous to post on others links, but i like reading and learning.
I truley want my family complete and my w home with us. I have talk to Father Mark today and he is helping me as much as he can. He has recommended a support group for me and on e for the kids to help deal with their mom and her issues. We are going to FC, i go with the children.
My two oldest spent the weekend with their father and he asked to speak with me tonight when i picked them up. We had an hour long conversation. S15 told his dad that he really misses his mom. That last week he spent the visit with Mom and OM and he hated it. He doesnt want to be near OM at all. He has chosen not to see his mom no matter what if OM is around.
So Their dad made me give him the rundown on OM. The funny part is the only thing going through my head is "the enemy of my enemy is my friend." once i told him what my lawyer had discovered and what w has told me and friends have told me he took a deep breath and looked me in the eyes and said,
"You know that i have lived a bad life and i have alot of bad people in my life. I know i havent been a good father till now but i am trying. Once people go down that road, they dont get off hard drugs by using other drugs and booze. If i let my kids go there or be around OM he will have me in court so fast my head will spin. He will however support me in keeping the kids safe and away from that lifestyle and help fight my w for protective order for supervised visitation."
so it got really interesting when he said he understands the kids are happy, that they have a family with me and he doesnt want to disrupt their lives but he wants more time with them. He wants 3 weekends a month, march break and 2 weeks in july and 2 weeks in august.
I have to say Thank-you God.
I will gladly give him this time if i get to keep all my kids together, the 2 wont have to choose where they want to live. So my w just lost her 1 weekend with the 2 oldest. I am not giving up the 1 weekend i get with them. And she is not going to be happy when she doesnt get the kids this week.
I am afraid that she is going to think i am using the kids to leverage her to come home.
Sgctxok, I have a job, i am an expert in my field and it wasnt hard. I didnt have a day of unemployment. thankyou for asking.
