What should I do?

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Forrest,

A lot of people don't get it -- you do -- but this is the real work of piecing. Really building a marriage a NEW marriage.

We want marriage to be completely like God, totally unconditional, warts and all, love. And that is the goal, but we have this human aspect to us. And rebuilding is hard. It's starting over in many ways.

It isn't a failure that you are at this place. It's part of the marriage map. It's new territory to navigate. This is the hardest part--keeping your heart open through it, not giving up. This is where many folks say, f-it. They just can't take it, but mostly don't know how--no skills. We aren't taught how to do this.

But this is where love is a decision, where it is patient and kind. Just keep being patient. How do you get patient? By being patient. Just do. There is no try, there is only do. But when you can't make yourself do, make yourself try. I know you get it.

And everything, absolutely everything is one day at a time. Actually one hour, one minute at a time. For this moment, be patient, be kind. Be love. Just be open and do the next right thing.

I'm with you. I'm on your team.