Deju vu, but new to the online forum...round 2

[sarahani]

MJ:

Thank you, you are right it does push him away from me when I do fight with him and that is the hardest challenge I am facing right now is STOPPING THE FIGHTS! It is one of the worst things I have gone through in my life as you well know. The reason I fight with him are for various reasons like about the kids, he doesn't want to implement a visiting schedule with the kids which is hard for me because I can't keep doing things for him when he does not do a thing for me. Most of my anger comes from how he left me and the kids, no car, no money, and no roof over our heads, I was a SAHM. He said he can't provide for us anymore because he isn't financially able to, yet he is moving out from his moms to his own apartment. There are a lot of issues other than the OW with us and this came as a shock to me because we had a relatively good marriage.

I know what you mean about S continuing to have an A and living with them, that is where I crossed the line too. Trust me I know the pain it is very raw still and it's been going on for close to a year. Every time he walked out the door I couldn't stop the sobbing because I knew he went to OW.

Thank you with the encouraging words I plan to really put an effort to stop all negativities between us. I am considering going dark although it will be tough with the kids there are ways I can go around it

I wish you luck in your sitch.