I'm sorry. Snooping often just hurts your own feelings. Been there, done that.
I think you have to fake it til you make it with the OW thing. You are never not going to care at all, but you may end up having it affect you much less. Fake it. You don't have to act happy about it, just drop the issue.
You may feel Bond is a bit disrespectful, and it might have an edge or ring of it....but he means well and cares. It isn't drive by sarcasm, he's just wanting to see larger progress.
I do see progress in you, rys.
What do you have on your agenda this week for some fun?
sg
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001