No sense pushing her off the ledge into something that maybe in the end neither of us wants. I was able to do some further checking of her text messages and I came across one that although cryptic in nature, implied that she is pulling away from the EA and is in mourning because of it. Whether they can keep the EA ended is up for discussion if they continue to communicate etc.
That sounds like good news Punchy. Everything on here leads me to believe that this is a process and that this is just one of the first steps in that process. The end of EA for whatever reason first. Then, the grieving process.
Originally Posted By: punchy
My guess is that she has told him that she is staying for the benefit of the kids and not because she wants to be with me. Knowing my wife, she hasn't told me this because even though she maybe staying she will want to continue living as roommates, which she knows is something I do not want.
That is fine with me, because as long as she stays in the home, I have a better chance of turning things around.
Exactly. Right now, who cares about the "why" of her choice. Obviously, we'd prefer it to be bc they realize what wonderful men and partners we are, but it is not realistic to expect that under these circumstances.
The bottom line is that IF you are right, and your W has chosen to stay in M, you WILL have a chance to make her fall back in love with you. IMO. I'd expect it to take time though. She is going to have to grieve end of EA. After that, assuming you continue with 180s and being a great dad, why wouldn't she have a an open mind and a willing heart to fall back in love with you?
I'm really trying to be positive today Punchy!
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
