I love your analogy. I'm going to use it, because that's exactly what it is in most cases.
You're doing the right thing and you're right, it does NOT make you a doormat.
Thanks DMOD. I'm trying here... really just a bad weekend.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce