On Figurative Ledge - Talk Me Down?

[Denver_2010]

Denver.

I don't know a lot about the process or the complete ins and outs of your R. But I do know one thing. And I think everyone agrees. You simply cannot expect to work on your R or have your W want to think about working on the M while the OM is front and center and still new and exciting. Of course the two paths diverge. Let the W have her OM time so it will possibly take a natural course and burnout OR set boundaries to get the OM out of the picture (some use a variety of tatics including exposure). I'm a firm believer in the harder line approach. Set boundaries.
How this takes into account me, my W and our R/situation. Only you know best each of those.
People can tell you what they'd do but ultimately it's your decision and you live with the consequences.

Harrier - That is exactly the struggle that I have been going through this weekend. I have been feeling that I am a doormat right now. You are also right that I have to make the choice that best fits my sitch. After thinking about it all weekend, I have decided to continue with the patiently wait approach.

I know that I want to stand for my M. I know that I want to stand for my M vows. This is the choice that I am making for me. I also know that taking the hard line approach would be "friendly fire" to my M and self defeating to my M vows. I vowed to love my W through better and worse, through good and bad... this is the worse and the bad. As TrueGritter said in one of his posts, I did made these vows until death we part, not until W gets scared and runs away. That is my choice... for me. This choice does NOT make me a doormat.

Just a little journaling their Harrier Thanks for your support man.