Have you asked your son if your behavior towards his father has been bothering him? I know it's hard, but maybe he was bothered with how he sees you reacting. Have you talked to your H directly about your son?
I understand you're staying dark or whatever, but this is your son you're talking about.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
when i talked to db counselor Laurie about a month ago she recommended that i continue some positive contact with h. because it seemed that he liked when i called him. Things were not good on new years though so im afraid to make any contact. I think he is really gone from our m because he is having my son to his house with ow there. What do you think?
I played tennis last night for 3 hours, it was a lot of fun. Met a lot of new people. They were very impressed with my serve, which made me feel good about myself. im going to bring my s with me next week when i go. he wants to try out for school team.
I played tennis last night for 3 hours, it was a lot of fun. Met a lot of new people. They were very impressed with my serve, which made me feel good about myself. im going to bring my s with me next week when i go. he wants to try out for school team.
You go girl! That's a difficult sport, G and my youngest D both play. I have no ability with tennis. Work it!
Some folks recommend the Conway book for MLC. You might want to join that forum for awhile. I know Brandnewday and snodderly are longtime dbers over there. They may be able to help.
That said, I don't think MLC is the issue here. But I could be wrong. Whatever works for you, girlfriend.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
Im feeling sad today. My son went out to lunch with h. I dont know if he is going to bring son to MIL and if ow will be there. I told son if you dont want to go over there tell him. I think he is afraid to speak up to h, i feel sad for my son. Do you think once they introduce the kids to other person there is no more hope. This really breaks my heart. I am so emotionally exhausted today. Thank God i can watch the spiritual programs on TV and I have my lab here by my side. I have to go talk to new attorney tomorrow which im not looking forward to, but she sounded very nice on phone, and was highly recommended.
Get counseling to deal with coping with the situation. As hard as it is, you cannot let it bother you. It's not an act.
The reality of the current situation is that your H is seeing another woman and since you don't have anything legal in terms of keeping your son away from OW, there's nothing you can do.
They have been going out for so long yet you are still in denial of it. That's why building your self-esteem is so important. Get regular and consistent help for your self to help with coping.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
