Deju vu, but new to the online forum...round 2

[MrBond]

mj,

All you're doing is looking for someone to validate your POV and agree with you that moving out is the best thing to do. No one can make that final decision but yourself.

There are risks and benefits for staying and leaving. I still say that in your sitch, you've given up all your cards and gave her the upper hand. I know she threatened to see a L, etc. But she didn't actually pull the trigger. My W did the same thing and I chose to stay.

But for now, if she's upset at the money spending part, then why would you leave? That's my point. The money is a big deal because it affects your standard of living. Stop worrying about what she thinks and start thinking about you.