My W decided not to go to the meeting. I told her the same thing when she asked my what my concerns are with the meeting. I told her that I was concerned that things would "start up again." Of course she disagreed. That may or may not be the case because she also told me the man she was attracted to "doesn't exist" as he was some fantasy that was created due to the "fog" she was in. Also the meeting isn't a run of the mill meeting, It deals with something that she is very excited to participate in. (It's kinda hard to explain)
But I did not want to force her into doing something and she said the same thing. She said that she didn't want resentment to build up against me if I started to seem controlling on this. So I gave her my opinion and she chose her own path on this.
She has also agreed to transparency, but honestly I haven't looked.
As far as the ML, you might be correct. But I think she handled it just fine. It was me that messed it up. I guess part of my point was that I wasn't looking to ML ASAP and I'm pretty sure she senses that.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
