Can't seem to tell what stage or what i'm doing

[Metal]

Her breakdown came from lots of pressures, housecleaning, wife, mother, dealing w/her parents, money, my expectations, etc.

Sometimes she will say that it is all my fault, but her Counselor says that her main stressor came from her parents, not me, even though she is blaming right now.

Powerful personality, where I am more the Peaceful personality. We've studied personalities a lot in the past, since we are so opposite.

They are her parents, and yes they were putting pressure on her about how to raise the kids, spend money, etc... She's pretty upset with me for not asking them to leave a long time ago, but we had a financial agreement with them, and I knew it would be a big disaster to ask them to leave, so I procrastinated, and she eventually broke.