All I can do is give you an opinion from my own personal experience and from what I've read about others.

I am concerned about this meeting she wants to attend. If it was a meeting where hundreds of people would be there, it wouldn't seem quite as "close", but if there is going to be less than 1/2 doz. there, that makes it rather too close for comfort. It has barely been one month since she told you she would cut contact with OM. Seeing him at this meeting could trigger all those feelings again, b/c she has not had enough time to build up a shield of strength against him. IMHO, I do not believe it is a wise decision for her to go.

Did she agree to have her email & phone accessible to you when she stopped contact with OM? I do not believe that couples should have private accounts from their S, especially if there has been an A and the couple is trying to R.

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Basically, my wife went from one week she's saying we should sleep in the same bed. We have a pretty good week, the next week she want to start ML again. I know for me I didn't push it AT ALL. In fact, I wasn't sure I was even ready to go down that road (turns out I was right)


I have read people's stories where the W is trying so hard to get things back to normal again that she starts sleeping with her H as soon as she breaks up with OM. However, in many cases it's too soon. If she really had a thing for this OM, she has to get through a "grieving stage". If she tries to avoid that stage by jumping into intimacy with her H......it could be too much too soon and she won't be able to handle it.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!