Papers haven't arrived yet, but all I've been doing is formulating what I believe to be fair. This I know is way over what my H has planned. My L will fill in what I don't know or catch.
Snodderly, ow is not the one who stood by my husband through thick and thin, supported him in his endeavors, took care of him during his stroke, raised the children, etc. You can bet your bottom dollar that I will not feather ow's nest any more than I have to.
I also agree with you that even though he is 'giving' me the house, it comes with a steep price and all he's really doing is sticking me with it to get out from underneath it. He's banking on my love of the house and property to 'control' me during the D. So yes, basically fair to him is all for him and nothing for me.
I also think he isn't beyond hiding assets if he could because that's who he is now.
Snodderly, is there a way to DB during D proceedings? Or do you just let all of that go because this is the legal aspect of D? DBing not for the chance to save the M, but because it's who I am anyway. I've still got a 12 year old that we have to co-parent together.
Is it unusual for a MLCer to file so long (15 mos)after he's let it go for this amount of time? I know you're only getting my side, but I really have not put any pressure on him financially or otherwise. Why would he run the risk of having to pay out a whole lot more than he is now by filing? The only thing I can figure is that he and ow will marry after the D.
Please believe these questions are only out of curiosity. Just for the purpose of making it easier for me to deal with.
Thank you all for your support. I've suspected the D would be coming for a long time, but it's all harder than anything I've ever done.
