Hearing it from the W is bad enough, but reading things I shouldn't be reading and seeing it to other people I think is worse. I saw a text from my W to my SIL where my SIL was asking about what to get me for Christmas, my W tells her to get me a 2 bit so that I leave her alone. Then I read an email to her and they were talking about a night they are planning out in a couple weeks when I am watching my daughters. Now that we don't live together her comment was something like now that she is single and I am watching the D, she doesn't have to get permission from 'the bastard' to go out. Now that was downright painful to read. Granted, I shouldn't have been snooping, but what is that all about?
It didn't take me much snooping before I realized it was making me miserable. If you're in a "no fault" state like me, it's just a waste of time, because affairs hardly matter at all. I also realized that I am a much more attractive and fun person to be around when I am happy. Snooping will make you miserable b/c you never find anything "good." It's you're mood. Those are just the facts man.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
