Just sharing some experience for those newbies struggling with the emotional rollercoaster. As you can tell from my signature, I was bombed 10/24/10 and did all the "wrong" things for about 2 weeks until I read DR. You all know what it's like, seemingly endless cycles of depression, anger, heartache, thinking, thinking, cannot concentrate on anything else etc. etc.
Well this was right before the holiday season, and at my church, beginning thanksgiving weekend, we sell Christmas trees. The following weekend we usually hold a caroling party at the tree lot complete with fire pit, hot chocolate, roasted hotdogs and mingling. I have been providing the guitar accompanyment for the past few years, but hadn't picked up the instrument in months. Well obviously I had to pick it up and practice, which was one of the first things I did after reading DR.
I began to notice that playing and especially singing the carols in practice actually lifted the depression from my mind and took me to a peaceful place. Needless to say, even after the party, any time I felt a down cycle on the rollercoaster, if I was home I'd pick up the guitar and (softly) sing and play. Now I download from the net, some of my favorite old tunes and continue the hobby.
Maybe some of you have an activity which takes your mind to a peaceful place, even if it's just, singing the shower or watching a good movie, or saying a rosary, do something in those valleys. It cannot hurt; it can only help.
Still prayin' for you all. Pickle
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
