I can't begin to tell you how sad I feel for your current unhappiness. You have always been one of the level headed, sincere, heartfelt persons on this board. I, on the other hand, am a cynic, and a He11 of a cynic, at that.
That being said, I want to reiterate what Eric just said. Define fair. What is fair about spending half your life with a man, helping him build his professional successes, bearing his children, and then, just when things should be getting easier, he wants to wash his hands of you and everything about you?
I know you are intelligent. I know you are hurting. I know you are a giving person. Sometimes all that smart but painful generosity makes us do things we regret later.
Get everything you can; and then take a little more.
You mentioned that money and security means a great deal to OW. Make her security a little less secure. Not to effect their R, who cares? Just because you can. And should. You earned it. She's just steppin' in.
Sorry if I sound like a complete biotch here, but I know it is much easier to get it the first time around than to try and go back to court.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
