I wake up to nothing and go to bed with nothing re the wife not providing any emotional support. She doesn't even have the decency to say goodnight to me. [/quite]
I'm right there with you man. Thankfully I have good friends to support me and hang with. Still riding a rollercoaster though, but you learn to recognize when you're in a bad stretch and just get through it.
[quote=punchy] I would like nothing more than to give her the hardline boundaries speech, but am fearful that it will push her to divorce. If we did not have any kids, i would go there in a second, but am trying to keep things going as long as possible for the benefit of the kids.
I don't mind giving my wife time to sort out what she needs, but not when OM is in the picture.
Just do what you "think", "envision", objectively "calculate" is best for you and especially for the kids.
Don't let your dispondancy, loneliless, lack of emotional support dictate your action regarding her, because they are in fact being influenced by her - it's the chiken and the egg cycle and will never stop.
Once you break that attachment the present emotional dependancy dynamic changes and that's the first domino to fall. anything can happen after that.
God Bless
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
