I don't know a lot about the process or the complete ins and outs of your R. But I do know one thing. And I think everyone agrees. You simply cannot expect to work on your R or have your W want to think about working on the M while the OM is front and center and still new and exciting. Of course the two paths diverge. Let the W have her OM time so it will possibly take a natural course and burnout OR set boundaries to get the OM out of the picture (some use a variety of tatics including exposure). I'm a firm believer in the harder line approach. Set boundaries. How this takes into account me, my W and our R/situation. Only you know best each of those. People can tell you what they'd do but ultimately it's your decision and you live with the consequences.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
