Deju vu, but new to the online forum...round 2

[sarahani]

Hi MJ:

I am in no position to give you advice as I don't know what to do myself but I will tell you that my husband and I are separated now and I wish I knew about DB'ing before he moved out. I like you thought that once he moved out and I detached from him he would miss us and immediately be back! Not so my friend it's been over 3 months and all I do is fight, fight, and fight with him because he doesn't miss us and I miss him. I don't have as much opportunities where I can GAL and all of the other DB techniques as I would if he was still in the home. I think DB'ing is hard to do as we have seen by all the posts but IMO it becomes tougher once the S is out of the house. D becomes easier for them to do once they have taken the step to move out, you see she did say that she will slow down the process but she didn’t offer you no guarantees as to how long. Since she did tell you not to move out because of the financial situation maybe she wont rush into things if you stayed anyways.

I see your point clearly as I felt that way in my sitch but that was before I knew about DB. Now that I know I wish we were still in the same house I would have been more confident that I could have saved my M. Every time I see him now he becomes more distant than the last…it’s a toughie but I say STAY! I haven’t read all your posts and am not sure if there is a A or not but when my husband moved out he become more attached to the OW.

Just my 2 cents...