1. I was not(and am still not) detaching. I am consumed with every thought about her and how to get her back. What I can do in her presence to show her I am changing. I was also driving myself nuts walking on eggshells around her.
2. She was in the process of setting a meeting for us to go see a mediator to start the D process.
She agreed to stop with my suggestion I move out.
Me moving out gives me a chance to slow her down and hopefully giving me the time I need to detach, GAL and draw her back into my M with changes I am making. In the end, either I stayed and she starts the D, or I move out and I am able to successfully DB and save my M, or she starts the D at a later time.
I see reasons why people are telling me that I shouldn't move out, but no one has commented on my perspective of it all.
Granted, the whole situation turned into a fustercluck when I lost my job, but that is a whole other story. That may have been the straw that broke the camel's back.
M42 W38 D5D7 M8 Living as 'roomates' since 9-12-10 Moved out 1-7-11 FIL threatened to kill me 1-20-11
