A few comments...you said that you would like a "fair" settlement. Define Lfair" for yourself. You may find that your version of fair is quite different than your H's. I also suggest that you sit down for a second and think about the real reason for why you want this to be fair. Is there still some part of you that hopes that by being fair, your H will see this and change his mind. If this is indeed thoughts you have you may want to rethink this. FTR, I agree with fair and just want to make sure that you do not give up more than you have too.
When things hit the legal side, you must listen to your lawyer. Your H will do what he feels he needs to do, you must do the same.
I am also sorry that it is going this route.
As for OW, let it go SA...let it go. It really does not matter at this point, what does matter is YOU, your health, your emotional wellbeing and your future.
My heart goes out to you.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
