DB'ing but it's a daily struggle - need support.

[habitacker]

I did not mean that each time my wife went out would have a story that would mean anything to you. It is just that each event has a story of its own. Nothing to help you in your sitch.

At first I will admit that when she started doing things on her own, the first thing I thought was A. Not so.

1. movie she was by herself. small town, easy to confirm without any snooping. Info comes to you through gossip.
2.Ultimat fighting thing was that someone she was working with was competing and a whole group went. She felt obligated and it was just a goofy thing for a group of girls from work to do. Also confirmed by small town gossip.
3.The baking session was just something new and different.
4. Her dad gave her a gun. So she is doing the safety courses and stuff like that. She did not ask for it, he kind of pushed it on her. He told me this. He had offered to me a few years back, but I spaced it off because I didn't care for it with kids in the house.
This gun thing still confuses me. She didn't tell me about it. Her dad spilled the beans. He was surprised she did not tell me. She has had it in her car because she doesn't know what to do with it. She has never had a ticket in her life, and got a speeding ticket yesterday with a gun in her car. I just don't know why she took it in the first place. I am sure her dad pushed it on her because we live in the country and he is the type that thinks she needs something like that.

I told her I could hide it in my shop up high away from the kids, but she said she would figure out something to do with it. No ammunition. Why have it? Why take courses? And why seek concealed weapons permit?

This gun subject has really turned my attention to her maybe having something wrong physically. Or it is just bad timing by her dad, or she didn't want to offend him some how.

Anyway, I just wanted to give a quik run down of these things to show you that they did not have any meaning other than a change of her lifestyles. If this is what you were asking?

But, her doing these things that are way out of character makes me feel EXACTLY, WORD FOR WORD, like your last 2 paragraphs.

I hope and pray that this is just our wifes way of getting some space and breathing, and actually not moving on without us.

There seems that there can be a positive or a negative to everything they do. We can't figure it out or judge them because we might have the wrong idea. This I believe is one of the reasons everyone tells us to detach.