Today my XH turned 44 years old, 4 years ago I took him to Mexico for his b-day and I had no idea that he was having his affair at that time. He was cold and distant, now I know that he was thinking of her the whole time and wishing she was there instead of me. It hurts to think of that, but not nearly as much as it use to. I never in a million years thought he was having an affair or ever would have one.

I got him a massage gift card and a kroger gift card from the kids, he got the massage one yesterday and thanked me via IM, we chatted a bit then I said I had to go to the bank and signed off. Then I texted him this morning Happy Birthday and sent him an e-card and that was it, my S15 called him to tell him HB and then XH asked to talk to me, he again thanked me for the card and text and was talking about stuff with D18 and his reffing basketball and all, I was nice, but kept it short and sweet. He said he had no plans at all for his b-day and I told him that D18 should take him to dinner. I am going out with a some friends for dinner and live music, gonna have fun!!

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Me-40
XH-44
T-21
M-18
Div-19 mo.
D-18,S-15,D-11
Bomb-7/07 EA,PA
Mvd out-9/07-to give me space
mvd back-12/07
mvd out-7/08
back with OW since 2/08
OW broke it off-1/10
in and out of tunnel and our life since!!