Different but not...can u help?

[Denver_2010]

Hi Scott. I'm really sorry that you find yourself here. But it is a really good place to get support and advice. One thing to keep in mind though, is that no one, not your friends, family, or the people on this board are in your shoes. No one can tell you how to feel or respond to your H's actions. These are your choices. I know that my friends and family are starting to think that I'm crazy for being so patient with my situation with my W. Actually, today, I kind of think that I may be crazy but that's a post for my thread.

My advice to you is to read Divorce Remedy by MWD. Specifically, the chapter or pages on "the last resort technique" (LRT). The reason that I point you to that chapter is that MWD states in that book that if your S has physically separated from you, you should start LRT ASAP. My W physically left our home at the very end of November and I have been in LRT ever since. Mixed results so far. I also agree with Angel that this may be mid life crisis stuff (MLC). I would read up on that. There is actually a separate forum on this website that I hear gets lots of traffic.

Lastly, I will just repeat some advice that I've gotten off of here.

1. Patience - You must have patience with this process bc reconcilliation can take a very long time. Again, you are in charge of the choices you make in regards to whether or not you want reconciliation. Only you can decide when you've had enough. But if you do want to reconcile, it may take a while.

2. GAL - Get a life... go make yourself happy. Do things that you have always wanted to do. Start a new hobby. Make you H wonder if you HAVE decided to move on without him and be curious about all of the fun that you are having!

3. Don't panic - Normally, I'd put this as #1, but you don't seem to be panicking at this stage. Angel may be right that it is denial, I don't know. Either way, just don't panic. And definitely don't make decisions while you are panicking or in an emotional state of mind.

Good luck Scott! We're all pulling for each other here.