what does respect mean to you? what did she do in the past that "told" you that she respected you?
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At times I think she does not love me.
this is mind-reading. during a marriage crisis, the mind can be your worst enemy. i am going to discount this statement. for now.
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All my life I have been told that you should "do" things that will help build a "family".
what kind of things were you advised to "do"? what are your thoughts on this?
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I feel like I have done that.
The measuring stick that I am held to says I did not.
feeling vs. knowing. two different things. i feel like eating this bucket of fried chicken for lunch. i know it isn't good for me.
one uses the heart and the other uses the brain.
what measuring stick? where is this said measuring stick with special powers that you must adhere to? can i buy one at walmart? i am not joking.
women are attracted to men who can lead. do you think you're leading by following some measuring stick and allowing it to dictate your competency and let it guide you to where you are in life?
what do you want in life?
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I have DB'd a marriage. And "won".
I find myself lacking in what to do next.
i find that hard to believe. everyone is capable of figuring out their next step. we don't just stand still when a marriage is in crisis. i have witnessed this before.
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Me.. personally.. I am a year with my foot out the door.
I don't "love" her like I used to.
i'm not surprised. men need to be respected by their wives. since you said your wife doesn't respect you. this is common in many WAS.
love is a feeling. it can change. it takes work though.
one foot out the door? it is commonly said that a man does not leave unless there is someone else waiting. so .. is there someone else?
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Is it my drinking? Is it my porn abuse? Is it money (feeling secure)? Is it just that I am not who she thought I was?
again .. mind-reading. prime example of what the mind can do and why it is your enemy at times like these.
