you are doing so much better than your h. it's good that you are focusing on the positives.
my sitch has pretty much been the same. stbxh moved to this fancy new house and i haven't heard from him since. the last time i saw him, he looked glum but that could all be a front.
he no longer plays squash at my club. but continue to do so. and our paths never cross. he has written me out of his life and i guess i have written him out of mine. there are no phone calls, no emails, no text messages.
my year of separation has come and gone. our SA has not been completed. we are fighting like children over 'stuff' and i'm sick and tired of being the 'bigger person'. i had a wonderful christmas. i'm building a beautiful home. i look back at 2010 and i did a lot for myself. i really surprised myself. my friends are happy for me. my family and i are closer than before.
when i got here, my marriage was DOA. there was nothing that db could have helped. absolutely nothing. my h was so focused on what he perceived as an unfair judicial system that he was out to get me on every nickel and dime. he and his parents bashed me at every opportunity they had. my family, friends, and i remained quiet and reserved. they wanted to beat the living daylights out of hm. but we decided to leave it in God's hands. Trust Him.
so i spent time focusing on me. healing me. counselling opened my eyes. calmed my soul. i am getting better every day.
i have not been served yet. but when the SA is over, it will be done. don't worry. stbxh is thrilled to have me out of his life. i haven't gone looking for that smoking gun. but i'm gonna assume that the man with great morals whom i married is now dead. and replaced by someone with no morals and only wants as much sex as he could get until he dies .. cuz that's what his mommy tells him to do all the time.
i have left db.com and followed others to another board. i have a thread there which documents what i've done so far. i wanted to contact you on the alt to let you know how i've been doing. you have been a great friend and you deserve to know the whole story.
