Update

Wife was in another upbeat mood yesterday. Gut was telling me that something wasn't right. Did some checking and confirmed that she is still communicating and going for coffee with the OM.

A few days after I had confronted her about the EA, she told me that she was no longer talking to him, which I found hard to believe. Based on the text message I saw, he is fully up to speed on all the goings on of my family, so this meeting for coffee was not a one-time relapse.

Need help here, do I tell her that I know she is still seeing the OM and repeat the boundaries discussion or just lay low?