Can't seem to tell what stage or what i'm doing

[Metal]

She had a mental breakdown a month ago, and about daily she talks or mentions wanting to leave the marriage. She is still home with me and the kids. Daily though she talks about, or mentions wanting to leave, or planning to leave. We are still hanging out, we watch movies, we go out to eat, we have lunch together, we talk in the evenings. I'm doing my best to do some kind of weird blend of LRT, no begging, no pleading, giving space when she wants it, but being there as a friend for her. It is so weird to be in this strange place.

Tonight she is planning on going out with her "wilder" friends to party/club, says she wont be coming home that night, so i assume she's going to stay at a friends house. It is just freaking me out. I'm going to say "Wow, you look amazing. Have a great time tonight". And not drill her about where she's going or who she's going with, etc. I know that one of the biggest problems we had, before the breakdown, is my not accepting her (she says i always try to make her fit in my square box, when she is a circle). I guess things are a little better right now, she talks less about leaving. And yesterday she said "I'm not going to work on the Marriage, until we fix what broke our Marriage".. so that leaves me with some hope. I just feel so lost right now.. Trying to be the good-guy, friend, good-father, no pressure, etc...