Thank you being - wonder if he will ever hit the bottom....
Needed to call H about work last night....I hardly ever phone him, usually just email...but had to last night....he answered with this fake over-sweet hello....but his tone of voice changed the moment he realized that it's me....I found it curious how obvious the change in his tone was........he was either expecting a call from OW or he really puts on his depressed voice just for me...Mind you every time I see him "happy" and smiling when we are in company of other people...it seems forced and fake and not sincere...like a mask
Sent him a short email to wish him HB...he replied with a thank you...Hopefully he will handle his b-day better then he did in the past few years...he was down and depressed, very obviously having problems accepting that he is getting old...last year he even cried...
After all the Xmas pretend "happy family" activities with H, he has withdrawn...again e-mails are dry, short...almost rude....no emotions showing at all....he maybe getting himself into the SA mood...wonder when he brings it up.
To be fair, I have withdrawn bit as well, just being very matter of fact, when he emails me something positive about business, I just acknowledge it but don't stroke his ego by praising him as I always did in the past...like "wow, you did it, that's fantastic, great job"....you get the picture
Have a great weekend planned...a GF is coming to visit and will stay until Sunday...and looks like I agreed to have drinks with an interesting guy on Sunday....
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"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Journaling - D was taking H out tonight for his BD, he was picking her up, usually he just waits in the car for her, today he rang the bell...I opened the door and he said to me "Hi sweetie" (can you believe it?) I said Hi and felt obligated to say and Happy B-Day...he came in and gave me a kiss (on the cheek)...he was wearing a new jacket...so obviously a present from OW....he would never buy something like that before...too shiny...had his hair was all sleeked back...looked like an aging dandy...
So I don't know if he came in because he wanted to hear a happy B-day from me (hopefully he wasn't expecting a b-day cake waiting for him) or came in to show me the new "look"....
Anyway I was all dressed up to go out and he asked "are you going out?" like he was surprised...I said "Yes, have a good time with D, bye...
I had a nice evening out...by myself...shopping therapy and a late movie...
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Had to add this, just checked my email and there was one from H informing me that he received a B-day present from our company...and apparently I will find the bill for it on the next invoice from our mobile provider.....ended the text with a smiley face...
So because I didn't give him the Iphone for his B-day he went and got himself a present from the company....
like a spoiled child...had to have it....I'm just shaking my head
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Mila, I could just smack him. This is an excellent example of how they act out...just like spoiled brats.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
So because I didn't give him the Iphone for his B-day he went and got himself a present from the company.... like a spoiled child...had to have it....I'm just shaking my head
Sounds familiar....instant gratification, impulsivity and the 'right' to have whatever their heart desires
Next, why don't 'the business' buy you a Rolex for your years of dedication and service, as you are moving on to bigger and better things. There will be an invoice next month under 'business expense'. No, I'm not kidding. Why should they be the only ones to profit from their perfidity?
