Well LIS, I dont know if letting my kids say these things to there mom is going to hurt or hinder my attempts to get my family back together. I cant see it hurting though.
I will say this, her friends that have been running the kids back and forth and letting her stay at her house with them were put in a bind by her this morning. She bailed on sitting for them, so i went over at 4:30 this morning and stayed until their kids went to school.
When i arrived, they asked me how she say the kids last night, so i told them. J took me aside and told me to never let OM drive them again. He has known OM for a long time and said that OM smokes pot all day at work, and that my W and him are always high and they drink alot. I asked how much and he said they go through a 24 of beer in a couple of days.
Talk about a RED FLAG! explains how my wife lost 8 sizes in 9 months, why she is pale white and her eyes are sunken and black. He said he promised her not to tell me about this issue and that is why he agreed to all the travel on her behalf and the visits being at his house. I thanked him and told him I would have to tell her I know.
This just confirmed my suspicions. My lawyer has already discovered that OM was hospitalized for a crack addiction for almost 6 months. I did send my W a email telling her that she needs to take extra care with the kids. That she hasnt made the best judgement calls with the kids. That she has admitted to me the amount of pot smoking and alcohol consumption. That as she chooses to have a drug addict near my children, they need to prove that he is clean and sober before I ever let my children drive in a vehicle again. If she persisted on this then she would have to take me to court and i would gladly state my case for the safety of my children.
All i got back was, the OM wouldnt intentionally hurt the children. They shouldnt have to prove anything to me. That she is their mother and can do what she wants when she wants.
I told her no she cant when it comes to the kids and she needs to realize that her lifestyle is not safe for them.
So i dont know what to say now. With alcohol and drug use, it explains why one minute she is the old her and the next she is totally different. Her father is an alcoholic and followed this type of path and ended up in and out of jail for years.
Any ideas what i do now with this dynamic. I know that I cant trust anything that has happened to this point.
