New Here - Wife Leaving

[Sad_but_happy]

Hi 27,
Man that is awful. I am so sorry for you sitch. The helplessness in these sitch's is devastating. I am in a much better sitch at the moment but I have to tell you that my trust has been shattered due to this experience. I almost feel like leaving my W today even though I love her just so I don't have to endure the POSSIBLE pain of W leaving in the future. Kind of like getting the pain over with now. It just shows that nothing in life is guaranteed.

This is why people lose trust and refuse to fall in love a second time. I know if my W leaves me it will take years before I allow 100% complete trust. At the same time, I will be the best possible partner, HOPEFULLY to my W, but if not her than to the woman that I deserve and that deserves me.

As for you W I'm sure she believes that this OM is her sole-mate. She is running the very real risk of waking up one day with no H, no OM, and no family...

As for exposing the EA I would do it. But that's just me. Also, your kids are old enough to know everything. I would tell them that you want to stay M but their mom has decided to go a different path. No reason to be mean or vindictive, just the facts, plain and simple.

I know what you're going through because when my W first told me she had EA and wanted out, I was consumed with pain. Unlike anything I ever felt. I am really praying for you 27...