Originally Posted By: kissak
But really, I dont really care what he thinks....it doesnt matter. Although I do hope it bother's him ALLLLL NIGHT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


LOL! No, if your hoping it bothers him, then you still care. He's still renting plenty of space in your head. Give it time, and more importantly, space.

You'll get to that point, but don't use your anger as a shortcut to get there. Get there because YOU WANT BETTER.

Dress up for you, not for a reaction. I hope like hell you get out and have fun tonight. More importantly get him out of your head. There will come a day where he will no longer cloud your vision and consume your thoughts and THAT is a wonderful thing when it happens.

As far as asking your friend to join you, that's completely your call. Just please think of him. I'm not really familiar with who he is but if he is interested in you for more than just a friendship, I question your availabilty at this time.


Originally Posted By: kissak
H just sent me a text "can you pick up chek for me?" (from the place he works part time that is close by me. He wont be back in area in time to get. I just replyed yes. He depends on me so much. But what can I say? If I said no, he would get mad and then be vengeful about it. Its easier to keep the peace and just pick it up for him. BUT STILL!!! Come on, he has an exOW there that would probably gladly get it for him!! One of his nice way much older women he had a fling with....this woman is like in her 50's!!!! yuck!!!!


Ummm NO. It's real easy, try it. smile Noooo. Or an "I'm really busy right now" would probably do.

Vengeful? Like how? DO NOT FEAR HIM. Kissak, I have a son whos 3 and a daughter whos 6 so I now you can't avoid him completely, but you do have the ability to maintain a healthy distance from him now that he's gone.

What are you afraid he'll do? Don't get me wrong, if you enjoy the way things are, and you enjoy helping him, then by all means please continue to do so.

I'm not trying to be a downer or hassle you in anyway and I'm sorry if it comes across like it. I still see a whole lot of back and forth on your part. Give it time and stay centered and focused on you.

Take care, I hope you make this weekend a wonderful one.


Don't stand still.