DB'ing but it's a daily struggle - need support.

[ScaredinCanada]

Thanks for all the advice, I like the "family celebration" and "thanking her for my wonderful children" these are great ideas.

I know I still pursue...I want to stop but it's sooooooooo hard.

I just got off the phone with her and she told me "I'm going out to see a show tonight". My obvious response, "With who?" to which she answered, "By myself". To which I said, "Oh OK, I guess I can't come", to which she responded "You have to watch the kids".

This is the first time she's gone out on her own. Not with the kids or her mother, and not to "shop".

I don't know guys I'm really hurting here. My whole goal this weekend is to stay detached.

My C thinks I need to tell my mother that I am angry with her, and that I don't appreciate the fact that she's contributing to the demise of my M. I told her that my W doesn't want me to talk about anything negative with my M until we "resolve our sitch". My C said that's not upto my W. Any thoughts?

PS - Habit, loved your comment about getting better so we can have sex. Soooooooooooooooo true. I could see my W saying that exactly.