GAL with waw. Stuck bad.

[habitacker]

The day of the Bomb she got her point across without saying those words directly. I am sure my begging and pleading for another chance kept her from saying them. But 2 months later I heard them.

My point was that before the bomb. I never new anything was wrong, like a lot of us. But after the bomb we can usually look back and see how they tried to communicate the problems with us.

I can not look back and find anything. She kept everything so deep to herself. Probably fear of my anger if she tried. Whatever the reason, I can honestly find nothing in the past that showed her trying to communicate that something was wrong. This is what I have meant in the past when I say we had extreme communication problems and didn't even know it.

So now this is why my fear is so strong about her never being able to try, because she just won't open up. If she wouldn't do it before she was a WAW and the problems were at the beginning, how is she going to do it now.

This is why DBing seems to be right for my sitch. Leave her alone,take the pressure off, change what she didn't like about me and what I didn't like about myself, and hopefully she can make it out of the fog. I need to stay a long ways away, but keep the lighthouse lit.