DB'ing but it's a daily struggle - need support.

[ScaredinCanada]

I find the "emotionless anniversary card" humorous. I had a heck of a time finding a x-mas card for wife without the word love on it. I bought one,but never gave it to her.

I just want to let you know that in the beginning I asked my wife to go to MC also. She did go by herself once. I think I asked how it was, and she said fine, but she did not see a need to go back.

Anyway, she said the only reason she went to MC is because I wanted her to, she went just to make me happy. Nothing was accomplished, actually only bad things happened from it.

I just wanted you to know and maybe get some ideas from what happened in my sitch. A lot of our things are so much alike, we might as well try to benefit from eachothers mistakes or achievements.

If she does not want to go to MC in search of something she feels she is looking for, it is a waste of time, and can actually be harmful in my opinion. But what the heck do I know, I might be asking you some dumb question 5 minutes from now when my emotions take over again.

Thanks Habit. 100% the reasons I come to this site each day is to relate to people to help me cope, to vent about my sitch and get advice from people that have or who are going through similar sitch.

If she doesn't want to goto IC or MC or simply isn't ready to go, why not just say it? She was able to easily hurt me by saying she didn't care about our anniversary but she's afraid to tell me she doesn't want or isn't ready to goto C?!?!? I don't get it.

I was having a convo with my boss today and he was mentioning that he had some issues with his W some years ago and it turned out to be related to medical issue (thyroid condition). He was saying that I might want to try and convince my W to go for a physical or something just to make sure there isn't some sort of medical condition that also be effecting the sitch?! Her M is suffers from manic depression and is medicated for it.

I'm not trying to find an excuse for why I'm in this sitch. I don't want people to think I am trying to blame my W. Like I said I have completly and fully owned up to my faults and and working to fix them. My concern is my W's complete and utter negativety towards our R.

Again, going to try and finish reading DR this weekend. Soooo hard to detach, because like you said unfortunetly my "Detached attitude" was a big part of why we are in this sitch.