DB'ing but it's a daily struggle - need support.

[habitacker]

I find the "emotionless anniversary card" humorous. I had a heck of a time finding a x-mas card for wife without the word love on it. I bought one,but never gave it to her.

I just want to let you know that in the beginning I asked my wife to go to MC also. She did go by herself once. I think I asked how it was, and she said fine, but she did not see a need to go back.

After a few months, the day came when she actually said the words "I want a divorce". This came from me pushing to want to know how we stood. Now I realize 2 months was not a long enough time, even though things seemed fine. Her pretending everything is fine is what had confused me at the time.

After the dreaded words, I bailed on the DB techniques for about 12 hours. I went into, I Love You and I am going to fight for this marriage phase. I went outside for a minute, and went back in and asked her about the 2 month earlier MC session. I asked what did you tell him? She said, she had told him she wanted a Divorce. This pi**ed me off, because MC had told me he saw nothing in her that said she was done. To this day I still don't know who to believe, I tend to believe my wife, this woman gets tears in her eyes if she just thinks about telling a lie.

Anyway, she said the only reason she went to MC is because I wanted her to, she went just to make me happy. Nothing was accomplished, actually only bad things happened from it.

I just wanted you to know and maybe get some ideas from what happened in my sitch. A lot of our things are so much alike, we might as well try to benefit from eachothers mistakes or achievements.

If she does not want to go to MC in search of something she feels she is looking for, it is a waste of time, and can actually be harmful in my opinion. But what the heck do I know, I might be asking you some dumb question 5 minutes from now when my emotions take over again.