DB'ing but it's a daily struggle - need support.

[ScaredinCanada]

Eric, first thanks for the reply.

She asked me how C went. So I thought the best thing to tell her would be that it went well. A positive for me, might make her feel better about booking a IC. She's told me from the beginning she would goto C, but since (about a month) continues to make excuses not to book.

I want her to book because I don't understand how her sitting around being angry and pissy with me is doing anything for the sitch - regardless of what outcome she wants. She knows I don't want D, but she also isn't doing anything to chance the sitch one way or the other.

I obviously understand her important list is probably much different then mine, but should I not assume that since she said she was going to goto C, that it is not on her list somewhere at least?

She is the calendar person - not me. She always puts EVERYTHING on the calendar - including my parents A in the previous years. My brothers A, his birthday, my SIL birthday, etc. so it seemed like a reasonable question. I agree I could easily add it - I guess it was a conversation starter for me.

As far as I know, and everything that has led me to believe that there might be OM has been debuked by her, or proven incorrect by literal evidence. So no it would appear currently there is no OM who trigger the B.

I guess I just feel similar to Habit that it's a double edged sword. In the past one of my biggest issues was my lack of thoughtfulness, so if I just act like it's another day then I am continuing that bad action from my past. I almost want to make a big deal out of it show her that I am being thoughtful.

I think I going to take your approach and ask what if anything she'd like to do. I plan to only get her a card, which will be tough because I don't know how to get an "emotionless anniversary card"????!?!?!???!

Am I better off without the mother of my children, the woman I still love, and have loved for all of my adult life? Are my children better off if we seperate? Is my W better off if we seperate? I believe the answer to all of these questions is NO. I think this is true regardless of what my W says...