DB'ing but it's a daily struggle - need support.

[ericmsant2]

Scared

I told her C went well

And what do you HOPE this accomplishes?

if she'd booked yet "Nooooo, not yet

Did she say she was going? If so, then why do you need to keep asking her? WHEN and IF she decides to go she will go. IMO, you asking is YOU pushing and controlling.

Ya I know hunny it's only been a f**king month, I'm sure you'll get around to it when it makes it onto your "important list".

Have you ever thought that HER important list is different than YOURS?

Anyways, I was asking the W if she realized that she hadn't marked my parents anniversary on our calendar (because she puts EVERYTHING on the caledar) and she said "Why would I care about there anniversary - I don't even care about my own!"

Why is it HER responsibility to put in on the calendar? You want YOU parents anniversary on the calendar maybe you should put it on yourself. Her response IMO, is very telling.

HOW DO I HANDLE MY ANNIVERSAY NOW?? It's in just over a week. Should I plan a baby-sitter, make reservations somewhere?

I was originally going to plan a weekend away at nice chalet resort or something, but she shot that down before Christmas.

I can't imagine I supposed to just ignore it and do nothing? Should I make plans for myself and just act like it's another day?????

I am sorry Scared but I have not read your entire thread so I do not know if OM is present. If so, then honestly anything that you do for your anniversary will be viewed as pursuit. If she wants out of the M, then why not RESPECT HER CHOICE and DO whatever it is that YOU feel like doing.

Card = pursuit
Nice letter = pursuit
Weekend getaway = pursuit
Dinner = pursuit

IMO, IF what you wanted was the try and make nice nice with her and show her just how much you love her and RESPECT her…I would say to her “our anniversary is coming up. Please let me know if you would like to do anything. I will RESPECT what you decide. If you could let me know by X day I would appreciate it”. Then if she does not respond by X day…I would make plans for YOU. Go out with the guys…kick back a few beers…watch some Canadian Hockey, whatever but do not be near her.

Just my 2 cents.

God Bless,
Eric