That may be in the cards later... But right now I can't complain... They are with her barely at all and with me most of the time. The current arrangements work for now. She did send me an email not too long ago asking to put kids in her hometown schools, because she planned to move there. Of course as I suspected OM lives there. He btw was her best friend and first kiss as a 9 year old... They recently started talking again after 22 years... Gotta love FB.
Just read this thread and it sounds like you have a good handle on things. May I ask why are YOU still concerned with OM? What good does it do you? Live your life for you and your kids.
Good luck on the legal front.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
I hope that you are okay. It seems that many of us on this board are having a difficult weekend.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
Hi Blessed, Keep going until you feel you're done. IMO, there does come a point where YOUR quality of life is so low that moving on IS better. And it's at that point the WAS will make their final decision. Our WAS needs to know that THEIR options are limited too... Once the cake is gone they panic too.
Did something happen to trigger you feeling to give up?
M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14 EA - July 2010 NC w/EA - Nov 2010 Piecing - Jan 2011 I ask for div - Jan 2012 Div papers filed - Mar 2012 I move out - July 2012 Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012
I'm thinking that yes, I'm done. I am gonna take a break from this site and focus on really moving on, but I'll be back in a month maybe and see how I feel then. Maybe I'll stay a bit longer or maybe move to the "That's Enough of This BS" forum. Thanks to all who took the time! See ya after my break.
I was going to wait to post the update regarding our first divorce hearing, which occurred a couple weeks ago, but I have time now.
She came to the hearing in another new outfit, more proof that she's not financially struggling. She had her angry face on again, I said good morning, she didn't say a word to me, didn't even look my way. I will never in my life understand how she can justify treating me that way. I guess it makes it easier to be so heartless. It's more comical now, but still hurtful.
So there was no issue re child custody, since we agreed to our current arrangements... Currently I have them the LARGE majority of the time. Her fight was directed at getting paid! She now wanted $540 child support plus $250 maintenance. She claimed I refused to pay her any child support, but I provided the email in which I told her my attorney advised me not to pay her anything yet, but I'd be willing to pay her the amount my attorney calculated... She responded with a refusal and demanded $750. We explained how she barely has the kids and her typical function is to drive 10 minutes to drop off at school... That she has no expenses re them because I do laundry, meals, use most diapers, all costs associated mostly paid by me. Judge didn't seem amused by her request... Maintenance Refused... Child Support set at $427-other expenses she is responsible for paying = about 300 per month... $40 less as each of the other 2 kids need school lunches. My attorney also mentioned how based on the current custody arrangements she should be paying me $400... W was PISSED OFF! Her attorney lost EVERY argument! I was thinking... Thank God she picked her. Karma!
Re her 1200 apt., they argued that we had several arguments in October that made the situation so unbarable that she had to move IMMEDIATELY, hyped up the situation of course, but yes we did argue. Only problem, I had the check she wrote for her apt. Sep 29th... Also a months worth of civil kind text messages in which we were doing thinks together, taking kids out to eat, activities, sweet comments, etc. I did explain that I asked her to leave because it was disrespectful to me & kids for her to have relations with other men while living under our roof... The day before she wrote the check, she agreed to move and texted that she would discuss with her attorney, KNOWING she already had been looking and planning to go. I showed the text stating she did say I could change the licks on the house, but made it an issue to get property from the house.
