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[Sanderika]

Happy New Year to You and Little Son, mdoodles.....

I am happy to read that your Hanukah was very nice. It is truly a magical time of year regardless of how we all celebrate the season.

I was not able to post too much since I have to be in D court next Thurs. 13th for our final hearing. I am not doing all that well emotionally. I really can't believe that after all this time and the reconnections we have made that this is actually going to happen.

I am planning to have a long talk with H prior. Regardless of the outcome in court there are numerous things that need to be tidied up: credit cards and bank accounts, names on deeds, registrations, etc.... almost 27 years married adds up to a lot of combined chit.

How are you getting along. What is happening between you and H. I am curious how little son reacts to H spending so much time with you now, does he have expectations that Daddy is coming home?

I had a long talk with my son, he's 14, and he said at this point in time he really doesn't care one way or another if H and I reconcile or divorce. He feels his life will not be different either way. In reality I think he likes it best when H is not around. I think sons feels a true estrangement from his father and at his age will not be able to have a true father/son relationship with him again due to all the years of hurt and neglect. I wonder why things have to be so darn hard.....

mdoodles, I want to get to the point of being like you. Maybe with a divorce decree in my hand I will be able to fully detach.

I wish you and little son all the best in this coming year. I hope we can both continue to grow as the past should have made us wiser and we can be thankful for the present. I hope good things will find us both in the future.

Take care, your friend...

Sanderika