The most important thing to understand is this is for YOU.
Not about how your W will see your choices. Quite the opposite.
You are making them in spite of what she chooses. Not as a reaction to. Or because of. That is the ONLY control you will EVER have in ANY relationship.
This one or another.
You're not making it for her. You promised. You choose how to live that.
The key is we all share a spouse who is guilty of at the least bad behavior and poor choices.
You choose how you let that affect who YOU are and what you believe.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
