Several emeails later, we weren't much closer to having things cleared up. I finally called him because it was eating at me that he thought he had overpaid me and then was going to change things so they wouldn't overpay me again. I went through all of last year and it comes to a payment in July which was a couple of hundred dollars more for child support for the year but I figured that was his bonus(I get part of it)and then the payment on December 30th which was for this January 3rd payment. He keeps saying but it posted in December so I overpaid. I am exhausted and frazzled by his thought process. We are going to set down and go over all of it next Tuesday.
I did get a bit upset about it and let a couple of other things out that were bothering me. I asked him to not have "her" at my house. It is my property and I don't want her there. I think it shows a total lack of understanding on his part. Really though, can't expect any real thinking on his part since he is still in a dense fog. I hate when I slip and let him bother me. I am in the process of trying to figure out a way to cut back about $500 a month when S18 comes off child support and then he goes on and on about overpaying me.
Anyone have an aspirin??
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
He shouldn't be talking to you about "overpaying". The CS people should be the ones explaining it to him, not you. As they say, let him "talk to the judge"!
I think they were the ones telling him that he over paid. Maybe someone new there. He said they hadn't taken anything out for his bonus but he does remember that they should have been. So really it may be a wash as far as that goes.
But the December 30th payment they received from his work was for my January payment. It takes his work about 10 days to deposit funds and then I receive them usually the following Monday. Just remember this is the same guy that I told, there is no way we can get divorced without bankruptcy happening. He was so sure that wasn't the case but yes, he drug us both down that path. He is not a numbers person.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I changed my "motto" on the alt and just wanted to share:
"Today, if only for a moment, I can make a difference. I don't need acknowledgement but if it has touched you, pay it forward in your own way. There is joy in the act of kindness . It is its own reward. Make a wonderful day for you and a stranger." kat
There is this pay it forward chain going around, which is fine. However, why not do it all the time when the moment strikes? You can change others behavior by changing your own. So I thought why not one person at a time, one act of generosity at a time. No matter how large or small, it all counts.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
