Having a really hard time...

[what next?]

I can want her to have control but hope that she sees the value in our marriage. I don't want to manipulate her into staying in this marriage... I want her to want to be in the marriage. I'm not giving her space to manipulate her. I mean I realize that not doing something is still doing something but so is doing anything. Whatever I do it will influence her decision but that doesn't mean that I don't want her to decide for herself that she wants to be with me.