If you think about it your emotions are basically the same towards each other, just not quite in sync.
I'm not sure about that.
Originally Posted By: Sanderika
I think that each time he has run away he distances himself for shorter periods of time.
Agreed
Originally Posted By: Sanderika
He wants reconnection back to you and uses D to get there. The saddest part is he has D on the same ride. IMO, H has to reconnect with D. He feels worse emotionally when they are on the outs. He truly loves her and in reality can't stand it when they are estranged. He comes creeping back to her slowly.....tests the waters......until she accepts him back. This same thing happens between you and H.
I'm not sure H wants reconnection with me as he attempts reconnection with D but not with me. I made the first contact not H. Time will tell because there's no further contact coming from me at this stage. He makes lots of contact with D. I think D is handling things very well. H has to work a lot harder and much more consistently to have a real relationship with D.
Originally Posted By: Sanderika
I am disgusted that I am actually faced with a D knowing how far H and I have come. I am disgusted by the fact the OW is still in his life. I feel I will completely bow out of his world after next week due to my inability to move on......
I feel your pain and anguish on this. My own decision remains to step aside and give myself space and detachment. It's the only hope I have to find the real me and realise my own goals. Each of us walks our own path, though.
